"Losing your sense of smell can have devastating consequences. I say this as someone who has experienced it personally as well as having moderated hundreds of conversations about our diminished quality of life. In my workshops and my one-to-one sessions with people, the phrase that always comes up is this: I can’t even explain how awful this is.
In addition, we are often told by those who do not understand that losing our sense of smell is a much better thing than losing vision or hearing. This is never helpful. Being invisible, smell seems easily dispensable. Smell is so undervalued that in a recent survey, more university students chose to give up smell over the use of their telephones.
So when you are faced with this unique bereavement, and your partner or family does not understand, what can you do? Here are some tips:
Keep talking about it. You are processing this change in your body, your life, your world. It’s hard and it will take time.
Most times, your family wants to be supportive and help you. But they don’t know how.
We have trouble putting into words just how this is affecting us, so don’t be too upset with them when they don’t get it.
Losing your sense of smell creates changes in the brain. We don’t know enough about just how these physical changes in the size of the olfactory bulb influence our feelings and emotions, but we do know that many people report the same thing: feelings of being isolated, cut off, “behind a glass wall”. “I didn’t feel like part of the world—just separated” was another comment.
Scientists are aware that clinical depression can actually cause a diminished sense of smell in a healthy person. The relationship between smell and depression is well recognised, but not necessarily understood. When researchers want to investigate smell loss in experiments in rats, they start by taking away the rats’s sense of smell by removing its olfactory bulbs.
If ever you feel you are in real danger because you can’t cope, seek medical help.
When a partner produces a meal that you can’t eat, tell them. Remind them how devastating these changes are for you, and that you need their support.
If your family insist that you try something that you feel you can’t stomach, you should feel you can say no.
Ask a family member or friend to help you explore new foods. The best way to do this is to compare things. Get together three things that are sort of similar--three condiments, three kinds of soup, breakfast cereal, fruit, nuts--chose what you like. Taste and compare the foods, and discuss what you like and don’t like about them.
Your assistant should do the same and discuss with you. You may also find that things you didn’t like before are palatable to you now. You need to be brave to do this, and a thoughtful assistant can really help.
If you have damage to your olfactory nerve from a virus, you have a good chance of regaining some sense of smell. People who have had a head injury have a lower probability of recovery, and it will probably take longer. Everything depends on the severity and nature of the injury. You can help yourself by using smell training as a kind of physiotherapy.
Speak to others who have experienced the condition. Join an online group like the AbScent Network or Facebook groups, or enquire at your ENT clinic for local support groups.
It will take time to adjust to your new situation, but adjustment will happen. Take things one day at a time."